In this episode I cover Chapter Seven: Principles Of Unconditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
bringing parents and children together...
Parental rationalizations for coercing children are quite similar to governmental rationalizations for coercing "citizens"
we are fallible beings, so making mistakes is a natural part of life
"Children construct a theory about their own motives based in part on our assumptions about their motives, and then they act accordingly: 'You think I'm just plain bad and need to be controlled all the time? Fine. Watch me act as though you're right.'" Kohn p.211
"We can help kids to develop good values by treating them as though they were already motivated by those values. They thereby come to believe what's best about themselves and live up to our trust in them." Kohn p.213
It's clear that parents need to learn the process of nonviolent communication, so they can foster win/win, life-enriching interactions with children, in which no one's needs are sacrificed
some post-porcfest 2011 details...
NSP - Jul 2, 2011 - Co-host: JT & Guests: Sovereign Curtis and Calvin
bumper music "Voyager" by Antinomie (couldn't find link)
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