In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
Taking responsibility is greatly diminished in those who administer punishments, since they commonly blame the disobedient person who's being punished as "bringing it on themselves" or "choosing" to be punished
Whenever what we want comes across as a demand (rather than a request), we tend to pay a price psychologically and socially in terms of getting our needs met
As humans, we all have the same needs:
And feelings are universal as well:
The all-too-commom process of parents telling children what to do and when to do it, such as eating and sleeping, greatly hinders the process of children learning to take responsibility for their own basic functions as growing human beings; and, it doesn't meet their needs for respect and autonomy (among other needs)
Check out the facets of whole-life unschooling...
http://www.unschooling.info/ ; http://www.unschooling.org/ ; http://www.holtgws.com/whatisunschoolin.html
Dayna Martin: What is Radical Unschooling?
Ian Freeman's thorough overview of the NH CD liberty activism
bumper music "Sunrise" by trancecontrol
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