Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.com
Taking what other people do and say personally (rather than just as tragic expressions of unmet needs) contributes to the violent communication process
Attributing the cause of our feelings to things outside ourselves prevents us from taking responsibility for our feelings
http://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3
With nonviolent communication, you separate your observation of what the other person (or yourself) did or said from your evaluation of it; unsolicited evaluations foster antagonism
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/NVC-Concepts
classic scene from Bee Movie posted on http://marcstevens.net
Still wasting time voting? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esO2WJZxpYY
Throughout history people have used morality as a weapon to get others to do things, which stems from how parents deal with their children--in which battles of the wills are common
Focusing on feelings and needs rather than moral judgments fosters understanding and compassion; in both parenting and education, this process is commonly lacking, and vital needs, such as respect, are neglected
Raising Children Compassionately by Marshall Rosenberg
http://www.naturalchild.org/marshall_rosenberg/rcc.html
The labeling of others, in addition to being disabling, also leads us to being disconnected from needs for authenticity and respect
It's not the job of parents to "make them behave"; violence begets violence
The need for autonomy needs to be fulfilled
bumper music "We're All To Blame" by Sum 41
http://www.sum41.com/
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