Episode 130 - Unmet needs of children, NVC, rewards and punishment, conformity

Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.com

Needs Inventory | The Center for Nonviolent Communication
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory

So many vital needs of kids are not being met by parents and school systems, such as clarity, respect, choice, autonomy, and independence
People doing things that they don't really want to do tends to disconnect them from their feelings and needs, causing a host of problems

Principles — Ayn Rand Lexicon
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/principles.html

Raising Children Compassionately by Marshall Rosenberg
http://www.naturalchild.org/marshall_rosenberg/rcc.html

Getting people to do things via punishments or rewards doesn't appeal to internal motivation, thus harming the quality of connection and producing conflict

Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes by Alfie Kohn
http://www.alfiekohn.org/books/pbr.htm

Why Real-Time Relationships is clearly superior to its contemporaries.... [Actually, RTR lacks some key aspects of NVC]
http://freedomainradio.com/BOARD/forums/p/24371/188994.aspx#188994

Surrendering our autonomy need to "authorities" is commonly demanded in our domination culture of coercive institutions

Hornberger's Blog - WikiLeaks: Conformists vs. Individualists
http://www.fff.org/blog/jghblog2010-12-02.asp

The WikiLeaks effect (cartoon)
http://reason.com/archives/2010/12/03/friday-funnies

Powerful and Bad in 2009: Scientific American Podcast
http://www.scientificamerican.com/podcast/episode.cfm?id=powerful-and-bad-in-2009-09-12-31

Authoritarian/conformist indoctrination runs quite deep in our culture, to the point that people's good intentions serve need's denying means

Self-responsibility and its Effects on Obedience and Aggression
http://www.logicallearning.net/obedience.html

bumper music "Children" by Robert Miles
http://www.robert-miles.com/

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