Episode 149 - Unconditional parenting, part eleven

In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/

Even if you're not a parent who is frustrated about how to deal with kids so that your own needs are met, it's key to get in touch with your child-self, so that you can focus on life-enriching, respectful interactions that are essentially win/win with children

Using operant and classical conditioning on children (and adults) basically prevents them from becoming mature human beings, beings that are self-actualized, self-confident, self-respecting, independent and happy; "pop behaviorism" disconnects us from our feelings and needs, treating us as nonconceptual creatures to be punished or bribed instead of reasoned with

Children are volitional, conceptual beings, in contrast to other primates (and all other organisms)
Homo Sapiens: The Rational Animal
http://www.logicallearning.net/libhomosapiens.html
The Crucial Faculty Of Choice
http://www.logicallearning.net/libfreewill.html

Statism is a recapitulation of the coercive family environment, in which kids' need for respect isn't met (among many other needs)

Domination language and domination structures thwart our need for autonomy and foster widespread coercion and hypocrisy

As humans, we all have the same needs: 
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory

The Secret Of Childhood by Maria Montessori
http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833
http://www.questia.com/PM.qst?a=o&d=8977399

bumper music "Chasing The Sun" by Ryan Farish
http://www.ryanfarish.com/

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