Wed, 24 July 2013
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Sun, 2 September 2012
The Questions:
1. Were you encouraged to think independently, to develop your critical faculty? Or were you taught to be obedient rather than mentally active and questioning?
Did your parents project that it was more important to conform to what other people believed than to discover what is true?
When your parents wanted you to do something, did they appeal to your understanding and give you reasons for their request? Or did they communicate in effect, "Do it because I say so"?
2. Did you feel free to express your views openly without fear of punishment?
3. Did your parents communicate their disapproval of your thoughts, desires, or behavior by means of humor, teasing, or sarcasm?
I invite you to participate in an eight-week therapy group of at least five persons (each weekly session will be 1.5hrs)--please email me at wes@happinesscounseling.com, and we'll fine-tune the program.
http://happinesscounseling.com/group-sessions-2/
Anarcho-Syndicalism: A Recipe for Ruin by Daniel James Sanchez
http://mises.org/daily/5590
Links to the CLP series on Unconditional Parenting here...
http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/
bumper music "Polonaise #3 in A, Op. 40 No. 1" by Frederic Chopin
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polonaises_Op._40_(Chopin)
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Direct download: Episode_170_-_Breaking_Free_part_three.mp3
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Mon, 5 December 2011
In this episode I cover the Appendix - Parenting Styles: The Relevance of Culture, Class, and Race in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Love is both a feeling and a need
Collectivistic cultures tend to minimize or even disfavor self-interest and self-actualization, which leads to repressed feelings, e.g., of resentment and depression
When parents spank children, they inflict pain and induce fear in them, i.e., fear of parental "authority," which sends a really confused and contradictory message to them about their own individuality and choice--and it perversely mixes notions of love with violence. Basically, violating the rights of children doesn't help them flourish.
Lenient parenting methods are just as lopsided as punitive parenting methods. They don't teach children respectful ways to express feelings and get needs met, while meeting the needs of others. It's important for parents to express their feelings in relation to their unmet needs, and be advocates for getting their needs met as much as children do.
Many thanks to Alfie Kohn for putting such a book of useful information about parenting into the world. May the memes of unconditional parenting spread far and wide, so that adults learn that there are life-enriching, win/win ways to get needs met in families, and children therefore grow up healthy and happy. :)
Youth Voices on Peacemaking and Conflict Resolution
http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL84.htm
Marshall Rosenberg 6-09 When Authority Destroys Creativity from NVC Training Course
http://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Training-Course/dp/1591794439
bumper music "Joyful Wonder" by Ott
http://www.ottsonic.net/
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Sat, 15 October 2011
In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Ten: The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/empathy
An assortment of helpful nonviolent communication resources I've compiled (2MB download of PDFs)
http://dl.dropbox.com/u/7585370/NVCcompilation.zip
Our culture has a tough time with the idea of self-centeredness, similar to the notion of selfishness; Ayn Rand helped clarify:
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/selfishness.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/contradictions.html
You are your highest value, first and foremost, which enables you to see others as their own highest value--thus, neither sacrificing oneself to others, nor others to oneself
A world of selfless people is not one in which people are getting their needs met
A profound way to explore your inner-self, especially your child-self--The Art Of Self-Discovery
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38
http://digg.com/news/technology/steve_jobs_narrates_never_aired_version_of_think_different_commercial
bumper music "A New World" by Antinomie
couldn't find link; closest site - http://www.myspace.com/nemystic
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Thu, 29 September 2011
Agora I/O - the online liberty unconference...
http://agora.io/laozi/schedule/
http://agora.io/laozi/archives/
Libertopia - an annual festival of peace, freedom, music, community and ideas that will change the World...a 3-day celebration of our individuality and diversity in sunny San Diego...
http://libertopia.org/
In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Ten: The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Happiness is our highest moral purpose, so it's vital to know what it objectively requires
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/happiness.html
Out-of-context happiness (e.g., ignoring the ills of statism) is just as disconnected from one's true self as the unhappiest depression
Punitive parenting and punitive governmental actions tragically go hand in hand
The commonly misunderstood ethical terms...
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-interest.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/altruism.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/trader_principle.html
At a bare minimum, parents need to convey to their kids the extreme importance and sanctity of their persons and property, i.e., the nature of respecting individual rights in society
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/individual_rights.html
In a free society, everyone can be productive; "competition" is merely people bringing various values to the marketplace
bumper music "Let There Be Light" by Astral Projection
http://www.myspace.com/astralprojectionavilior
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Sun, 11 September 2011
In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Taking responsibility is greatly diminished in those who administer punishments, since they commonly blame the disobedient person who's being punished as "bringing it on themselves" or "choosing" to be punished
Whenever what we want comes across as a demand (rather than a request), we tend to pay a price psychologically and socially in terms of getting our needs met
As humans, we all have the same needs:
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
And feelings are universal as well:
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory
The all-too-commom process of parents telling children what to do and when to do it, such as eating and sleeping, greatly hinders the process of children learning to take responsibility for their own basic functions as growing human beings; and, it doesn't meet their needs for respect and autonomy (among other needs)
Check out the facets of whole-life unschooling...
http://www.unschooling.info/ ; http://www.unschooling.org/ ; http://www.holtgws.com/whatisunschoolin.html
Dayna Martin: What is Radical Unschooling?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiHyzS26N0Y
Ian Freeman's thorough overview of the NH CD liberty activism
http://freekeene.com/2011/09/03/ians-blog-from-jail-3/
bumper music "Sunrise" by trance[]control
http://www.trancecontrol.com/
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Sun, 28 August 2011
In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Even if you're not a parent who is frustrated about how to deal with kids so that your own needs are met, it's key to get in touch with your child-self, so that you can focus on life-enriching, respectful interactions that are essentially win/win with children
Using operant and classical conditioning on children (and adults) basically prevents them from becoming mature human beings, beings that are self-actualized, self-confident, self-respecting, independent and happy; "pop behaviorism" disconnects us from our feelings and needs, treating us as nonconceptual creatures to be punished or bribed instead of reasoned with
Children are volitional, conceptual beings, in contrast to other primates (and all other organisms)
Homo Sapiens: The Rational Animal
http://www.logicallearning.net/libhomosapiens.html
The Crucial Faculty Of Choice
http://www.logicallearning.net/libfreewill.html
Statism is a recapitulation of the coercive family environment, in which kids' need for respect isn't met (among many other needs)
Domination language and domination structures thwart our need for autonomy and foster widespread coercion and hypocrisy
As humans, we all have the same needs:
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
The Secret Of Childhood by Maria Montessori
http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833
http://www.questia.com/PM.qst?a=o&d=8977399
bumper music "Chasing The Sun" by Ryan Farish
http://www.ryanfarish.com/
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Mon, 15 August 2011
In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Eight: Love Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
The process of administering rewards and punishments doesn't treat individuals as equals; authoritarian power imbalances are inherent
Sound property rights enable jurisdiction, whereas "public property" enables constant injustices by the coercive (and communistic) monopoly of statist police and courts
About Ian Freeman's unjust incarceration and the nature of the system of injustice...
http://freekeene.com/2011/08/11/what-can-you-do-when-you-dont-approve-of-police-actions/
The practice of self-acceptance is a key component of self-esteem, of embracing one's fundamental worthiness, being fit to exist
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=35
Unschooling: What is Deschooling?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9meP3a64MzY
"Authority," given its unreasonable nature, will never respect reason and choice in individuals
Info about unschooling and John Holt's books...
http://www.holtgws.com/
bumper music "Nothing Left To Give" by Sarah McLachlan
http://www.sarahmclachlan.com/
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Sat, 30 July 2011
In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Eight: Love Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Some of Ayn Rand's views on love...
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/love.html
Life is what you make of it; your sense of life essentially colors your experiences yet doesn't alter objective reality; no one's needs ought to be sacrificed in the process of living happily
Nonviolent communication is truly a language of life, essential for adults and children--for families
http://cnvc.org
http://nvcworld.com
Instead of offer criticism, strive to complain effectively...
http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/12/73-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-1/
http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/20/74-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-2/
Helpful and comprehensive psychotherapeutic workbook to compassionately connect you with your own child-self, among other subconscious facets: The Art Of Self-Discovery
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38
Peace Talks Radio interview with Jorge Rubio, an NVC trainer (40mins)
http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL05.htm
You're welcome to join the Complete Liberty fb fan page:
http://facebook.com/completeliberty/
Nonviolent communication thread...
Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13
bumper music "Do you do you love me" by Nina
http://www.ninagoddess.com/
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Sun, 17 July 2011
In this episode I cover Chapter Seven: Principles Of Unconditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
bringing parents and children together...
http://takingchildrenseriously.com
Parental rationalizations for coercing children are quite similar to governmental rationalizations for coercing "citizens"
we are fallible beings, so making mistakes is a natural part of life
http://www.logicallearning.net/libertyourownima.html
"Children construct a theory about their own motives based in part on our assumptions about their motives, and then they act accordingly: 'You think I'm just plain bad and need to be controlled all the time? Fine. Watch me act as though you're right.'" Kohn p.211
"We can help kids to develop good values by treating them as though they were already motivated by those values. They thereby come to believe what's best about themselves and live up to our trust in them." Kohn p.213
It's clear that parents need to learn the process of nonviolent communication, so they can foster win/win, life-enriching interactions with children, in which no one's needs are sacrificed
http://nvcworld.com
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting
some post-porcfest 2011 details...
NSP - Jul 2, 2011 - Co-host: JT & Guests: Sovereign Curtis and Calvin
http://www.marcstevens.net/nsp-commercial-free/474-nsp20110702.html
bumper music "Voyager" by Antinomie (couldn't find link)
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Sat, 18 June 2011
In this episode I cover Chapter Six: What Holds Us Back in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
We learn various costly ways of conditional and controlling parenting via:
-What we see and hear, especially from our family and friends and advice from media figures and doctors
-What we believe, especially societal views of children in terms of their perceived lack of capabilities and the widespread acceptance of control through competition, conformity, punishment, religion, and notions of parenting permissiveness, authoritativeness, and authoritarianism
-What we feel, in terms of projecting our own emotions and behaviors on kids stemming from our own unmet needs from childhood and the myriad psychological defenses arising from them
-What we fear, such as inadequacy, incompetence, powerlessness, being judged by others, our children's safety, and fears of babying and permissiveness, all of which can foster parental behavior that doesn't meet kids' vital needs
Being dissociated from and disowning of one's own child-self is central to not meeting the needs of children and not having authentic and joyful interactions with them
Patience and empathy foster win/win, life-enriching relationships with children
Punishment for violating governmental "laws" is a near perfect reflection of the punishment model of parenting
Mind sacrifice entails the surrender of one's own reasoning ability to allegedly higher authorities
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/mystics_of_spirit_and_muscle.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/religion.html
Parenting with carrot-and-stick manipulation, either on one end or the other--or the so-called "just right" approach--disconnects both parents and kids from what's alive in them, their true reasoning selves, and their feeling and needs
Adults' unmet needs from childhood, if not examined, understood, and dealt with, can lead to many costly strategies to get them met, particularly as parents
11 Situations in Which it Is Not Appropriate for You to Have Children by Daniel Mackler
http://www.iraresoul.com/nokids.html
Placing "limits" on kids often means not letting them develop the essential skill of determining their own limits--so that they can be responsible and self-governing
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13
bumper music "Set Theory" by Divider (unable to find link)
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Sun, 5 June 2011
In this episode I cover Chapter Five: Pushed To Succeed in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
"Pop behaviorism" or operant conditioning implements punishments and rewards as a way to get people to do things--in violation of voluntary interaction and property rights
The essence of statism arises from authoritarianism in the family, denying children's needs for respect and choice (among other needs, such as emotional and intellectual honesty) and appealing to extrinsic motivators rather than intrinsic motivation and reason
A useful resource to learn about the so-called educational system, among other important things
http://schoolsucksproject.com
George Carlin - "Proud parents" bumper stickers
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxmE2qMbYRU
John Holt and the world of unschooling, which is respectful of learners
http://www.holtgws.com/
Being free to make your own choices (instead of capitulating to others' demands) promotes intrinsic motivation and thus self-actualization--which will foster a vibrant, prosperous society
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13
2011 Porcupine Freedom Festival in Lancaster, NH
http://porcfest.com
bumper music "Ain't Wastin' Time No More" by the Allman Brothers
http://www.allmanbrothersband.com/
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Wed, 11 May 2011
In this episode I cover Chapter Four: Punitive Damages in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
The jail and prison system is a case study in punitive damages, wreaking havoc on individuals and our culture
Punishment is inimical to individual life and well-being; though it's used as a costly way to control others and "teach them a lesson," it can never foster respect and self-esteem
Government is simply a manifestation of the punishment model used by parents carried into the public realm; those in government have no property rights jurisdiction (they are neither property owners nor voluntarily chosen--i.e., hired--agents of property owners)
Punishment by parents directly undermines a loving relationship with children, sabotaging both trust and respect
bumper music "This Is My House" by trance[]control
http://www.trancecontrol.com/
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Tue, 26 April 2011
In this episode I cover Chapter Three: Too Much Control in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Australia to refund royalty increases under mine tax (whatever that means)
http://www.mineweb.com/mineweb/view/mineweb/en/page72068?oid=123556&sn=Detail
Protectionism and taxation are based on economic fallacies as well as legal and ethical falsehoods
What Has Government Done to Our Money? by Murray N. Rothbard
http://mises.org/money.asp
Many parents act as if children "don't deserve" an equal amount of respect as adults
it's important to distinguish requests from demands...
The Basics of Non Violent Communication 2.5
http://youtu.be/OqEVI07WmzM
ultimately, we can't make anyone do anything; we can only make them wish they had...
The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.6
http://youtu.be/ppyawhuroDw
Meeting children's need for self-esteem (self-confidence and self-respect) enables parents to lessen their own frustration and get their own needs met
External control and demands and lack of trust don't work, and they are harmful to self-regulation, among other vital needs
Secret of Childhood by Maria Montessori
http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833
Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
bumper music "Another Beat" by trance[]control
http://www.trancecontrol.com/
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Tue, 12 April 2011
In this episode I cover Chapter Two: Giving And Withholding Love in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Time out from positive reinforcement is a widespread form of love withdrawal
Making children suffer in order to get different behavior from them begets more of itself, and it definitely prepares them for the coercive world of statism
The Condition Of Modern Psychology (explicating many of the ills of behaviorism and lack of philosophical understanding)
http://www.logicallearning.net/libconditionofps.html
My Years with Ayn Rand - A powerful myth-shattering memoir about one of the twentieth century's most controversial figures
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_25&products_id=29
Rewards are largely ineffective at improving the quality of people's work and learning, and like punishments, they have many harmful results
Intrinsic motivation, wanting to do something for its own sake, is fundamentally different than extrinsic motivation, doing something in order to get something else (reward) or avoid something else (punishment); both punishments and rewards are extrinsic motivators, which in turn sabotage intrinsic motivation and beget extrinsically motivated people
Helpful and comprehensive psychotherapeutic workbook: The Art Of Self-Discovery
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
bumper music "Justify My Love" by trance[]control
http://www.trancecontrol.com/
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Mon, 28 March 2011
In this episode I cover Chapter One: Conditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Your vision of human nature is basically reflected in how you view children
The replaying abusive childhood scripts is common in the adult world--such as government and the memes of statism
Bullying story from New South Wales...
YouTube - Casey Heynes FULL INTERVIEW on ACA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-5jktFu4iE
VIDEO: Boy body-slams his alleged bully (Bully Interview)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5sTp3Yls-I
The institution of government doesn't meet individual needs for respect and sovereignty
Moralistic thinking (right and wrong) can diminish our chances of getting our needs met from the person being accused and disconnect us from taking responsibility for our emotions
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda (registration deadline has been extended!)
http://www.btwcruises.com/rw/view/475
http://freedomcamp.wikispaces.com/
bumper music "The Journey" by Lagoona
http://www.purevolume.com/andreasviklund
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Mon, 14 March 2011
In this episode I cover the Introduction in the book Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
The most extreme example of operant conditioning is the domination system of government--individuals are told to obey and are punished if they don't do what they're told
Any political philosophy not based on property rights is bound to deny individual needs for autonomy, justice, choice, and respect
The foundation of a free society is to be found in parents who interact with children in life-enriching ways, who connect with feelings and meet needs for respect and choice
Teaching kids to attribute the cause of their feelings to things outside themselves hinders them (and later, as adults) from taking responsibility for their feelings
http://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3 (NVC audiobook segment by Marshall Rosenberg)
Please join the revised http://completeliberty.com
Here's an instructive forum thread...
Home> Public Outreach> How do we educate? (an NVC discussion)
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/7/page/1
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com
2011 Liberty Getaway 5-day cruise to Bermuda (registration deadline has been extended!)
http://www.btwcruises.com/rw/view/475
http://freedomcamp.wikispaces.com/
bumper music "Destination Skyline" by Aura - the source of trance
http://auratrance.com/
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Mon, 28 February 2011
Guest Oliver Heuler from Germany http://heuler.de/ and http://voluntarist.de/ (Google Chrome browser can translate into English on the fly:)
Re: FDR 1007: A third way http://board.freedomainradio.com/forums/p/14090/119868.aspx
Oliver's handiwork...
Obama will resign as president http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxjkatKuwRM
http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1837_nonviolent_communication_Roundtable.mp3
http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1836_NVC_Intro.mp3
Nonviolent communication simply means connecting with feelings and needs
Needs for safety, security, and comfort need not come at the expense of needs for justice, autonomy, independence, choice, and respect
Two invaluable parenting books:
Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation by Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson
http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/store/product_info.php?products_id=48
and
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
No Contest: The Case Against Competition by Alfie Kohn
http://www.alfiekohn.org/books/nc.htm
When Competition Leads To Conflict (audio interview w/ Kohn)
http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL49.htm
Spirituality, rationally understood, pertains to a heightened awareness of one's internal and external worlds
Primitive cultures fostered conformity to the tribe - http://www.logicallearning.net/libearlyhumancon.html
Your interpretations and assessments of past experiences tend to be more important than those past experiences themselves
Change your thoughts and change your feelings
http://www.feelinggood.com/
Value judgments can be distinguished from moral judgments, and there's nothing more foundational than connecting the former with feelings and needs
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
Max-Neef on Human Needs and Human-scale Development - http://www.rainforestinfo.org.au/background/maxneef.htm
transcendence, integration, autonomy, and connection may be our four basic drives
http://porctherapy.com/2011/02/09/porc-therapy-117-nvc-feedback-ii/
http://freekeene.com/2011/02/21/wmur-reports-on-free-keene/
Battleground: Keene
http://www.wmur.com/video/26935273/detail.html
bumper music "Carry You" by VNV Nation
http://www.vnvnation.com/
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Sun, 14 November 2010
Nonviolent communication: a language of life By Marshall B. Rosenberg
http://books.google.com/books?id=nY4tDDO93E8C&printsec=frontcover&source=gbs_atb#v=onepage&q&f=false
http://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034/
The Objectivist ethics of rational self-interest...
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-interest.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/values.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/virtue.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-esteem.html
Nonviolent communication upholds needs (or values) as universal; we all have the same needs
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
Hosts Mike and Stephanie invited me as a guest on their podcast to discuss NVC
http://porctherapy.com/2010/11/08/porc-therapy-096-nonviolent-communication/
"Blame, insults, put-downs (critical remarks), labels, criticism,
comparisons, and diagnoses are all forms of judgment."..."When we judge, as a result, we increase defensiveness and resistance from others. If they do agree to act in harmony with our values because they concur with our analysis of their wrongness, they will likely do so out of fear, guilt, or shame." Marshall Rosenberg
The subtle violence of nonviolent language.
http://www.thefreelibrary.com/The+subtle+violence+of+nonviolent+language-a0152267677
The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-129JLTjkQ
Marshall Rosenberg NVC Role Play
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bydhuxilg_A&NR=1
Rosenberg on Nonviolent Communication ~ NVC
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ-fUVM4Dos
Secret of Childhood by Maria Montessori
http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833
Nonviolent Communication Part 2 Marshall Rosenberg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbgxFgAN7_w
rolplay1 nonviolent communication
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPpQIkaH0Wo
Kelly Bryson, part 3 - nonviolence, revolution and a third way though conflict
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IDvlwLXmRU
Kelly Bryson, part 4, Nonviolent Communication
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SICCWuunEvY
Kelly Bryson, part 5, Nonviolent Communication
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDQ_rsCWO6o
Kelly Bryson, part 6, Nonviolent Communication
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O6Ejfw0MI_s
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/
Compassionate Communication By Marshall Rosenberg
http://www.nwcompass.org/compassionate_communication.html
NVC never fails if you stay with the process...from a connection, creativity arises, and a synergistic solution will always present itself, without fail!
Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
bumper music "Bring Me Back To Life" by Evanescence
http://www.evanescence.com/
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