Complete Liberty Podcast
Show that promotes total respect for self-ownership, property rights, and personal choice--amidst the authoritarian/obedience-oriented political and psychological memes in American culture (and elsewhere). Basically, governments and all they entail are the problem, not the solution. Voluntarism (or market anarchism, or anarcho-capitalism) and customary law principles, in accordance with reason and dignity, spell the solution. www.completeliberty.com

Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.com

Needs Inventory | The Center for Nonviolent Communication
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory

So many vital needs of kids are not being met by parents and school systems, such as clarity, respect, choice, autonomy, and independence
People doing things that they don't really want to do tends to disconnect them from their feelings and needs, causing a host of problems

Principles — Ayn Rand Lexicon
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/principles.html

Raising Children Compassionately by Marshall Rosenberg
http://www.naturalchild.org/marshall_rosenberg/rcc.html

Getting people to do things via punishments or rewards doesn't appeal to internal motivation, thus harming the quality of connection and producing conflict

Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes by Alfie Kohn
http://www.alfiekohn.org/books/pbr.htm

Why Real-Time Relationships is clearly superior to its contemporaries.... [Actually, RTR lacks some key aspects of NVC]
http://freedomainradio.com/BOARD/forums/p/24371/188994.aspx#188994

Surrendering our autonomy need to "authorities" is commonly demanded in our domination culture of coercive institutions

Hornberger's Blog - WikiLeaks: Conformists vs. Individualists
http://www.fff.org/blog/jghblog2010-12-02.asp

The WikiLeaks effect (cartoon)
http://reason.com/archives/2010/12/03/friday-funnies

Powerful and Bad in 2009: Scientific American Podcast
http://www.scientificamerican.com/podcast/episode.cfm?id=powerful-and-bad-in-2009-09-12-31

Authoritarian/conformist indoctrination runs quite deep in our culture, to the point that people's good intentions serve need's denying means

Self-responsibility and its Effects on Obedience and Aggression
http://www.logicallearning.net/obedience.html

bumper music "Children" by Robert Miles
http://www.robert-miles.com/

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Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.com

Taking what other people do and say personally (rather than just as tragic expressions of unmet needs) contributes to the violent communication process
Attributing the cause of our feelings to things outside ourselves prevents us from taking responsibility for our feelings
http://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3

With nonviolent communication, you separate your observation of what the other person (or yourself) did or said from your evaluation of it; unsolicited evaluations foster antagonism
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/NVC-Concepts

classic scene from Bee Movie posted on http://marcstevens.net
Still wasting time voting? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esO2WJZxpYY

Throughout history people have used morality as a weapon to get others to do things, which stems from how parents deal with their children--in which battles of the wills are common

Focusing on feelings and needs rather than moral judgments fosters understanding and compassion; in both parenting and education, this process is commonly lacking, and vital needs, such as respect, are neglected

Raising Children Compassionately by Marshall Rosenberg
http://www.naturalchild.org/marshall_rosenberg/rcc.html

The labeling of others, in addition to being disabling, also leads us to being disconnected from needs for authenticity and respect

It's not the job of parents to "make them behave"; violence begets violence
The need for autonomy needs to be fulfilled

bumper music "We're All To Blame" by Sum 41
http://www.sum41.com/

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Brett joins me from http://schoolsucksproject.com

Nonviolent communication achieves clarity and understanding without the typical seen and unseen costs of arguments

Even if a person expresses disinterest in communication, then you can still guess his or her feelings and needs behind that sentiment, thus keeping the empathetic connection
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory

http://www.celebrateempathy.com/NVC_Intro.pdf

Diagnosing, moralizing, and judging others is the death knell for the empathic process--and thus for getting our needs met

Attributing the cause of our feelings to things outside ourselves prevents us from taking responsibility for our feelings
clip from the NVC audiobook by Marshall Rosenberg...
http://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3

Punishing through inducing fear is terribly widespread in human culture, e.g., "law-enforcement"--which utterly fails to meet our needs for respect and choice
as are all aspects of "pop behaviorism" - http://www.alfiekohn.org/

Child Rearing Practices of Distant Ancestors Foster Morality, Compassion in Kids
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/09/100921163709.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting

The Comprachicos by Ayn Rand
http://xanthippaschamberpot.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/ayn-rand-the-comprachicos.pdf

Being grounded in ourselves, in our own feelings and needs, is the true self-centeredness that enables us to understand and connect with others
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-interest.html

Crisis And Leviathan: Critical Episodes in the Growth of American Government by Robert Higgs
http://www.independent.org/store/book_detail.asp?bookID=15

Sign up now for the Liberty Getaway Cruise in Nov 2011
http://www.btwcruises.com/rw/view/475
http://freedomcamp.wikispaces.com/

Parenting with Nonviolent Communication (NVC) - CNVC Certified NVC Trainer Inbal Kashtan discusses and demonstrates how to work with the incessant "no" from a child
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQO7h9MNCqI

bumper music "Empathy" by Tears Of Technology
http://tearsoftechnology.com/

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