Complete Liberty Podcast
Show that promotes total respect for self-ownership, property rights, and personal choice--amidst the authoritarian/obedience-oriented political and psychological memes in American culture (and elsewhere). Basically, governments and all they entail are the problem, not the solution. Voluntarism (or market anarchism, or anarcho-capitalism) and customary law principles, in accordance with reason and dignity, spell the solution. www.completeliberty.com

In this episode I cover Chapter Six: What Holds Us Back in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/

We learn various costly ways of conditional and controlling parenting via:

-What we see and hear, especially from our family and friends and advice from media figures and doctors

-What we believe, especially societal views of children in terms of their perceived lack of capabilities and the widespread acceptance of control through competition, conformity, punishment, religion, and notions of parenting permissiveness, authoritativeness, and authoritarianism

-What we feel, in terms of projecting our own emotions and behaviors on kids stemming from our own unmet needs from childhood and the myriad psychological defenses arising from them

-What we fear, such as inadequacy, incompetence, powerlessness, being judged by others, our children's safety, and fears of babying and permissiveness, all of which can foster parental behavior that doesn't meet kids' vital needs

Being dissociated from and disowning of one's own child-self is central to not meeting the needs of children and not having authentic and joyful interactions with them

Patience and empathy foster win/win, life-enriching relationships with children

Punishment for violating governmental "laws" is a near perfect reflection of the punishment model of parenting

Mind sacrifice entails the surrender of one's own reasoning ability to allegedly higher authorities
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/mystics_of_spirit_and_muscle.html
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/religion.html

Parenting with carrot-and-stick manipulation, either on one end or the other--or the so-called "just right" approach--disconnects both parents and kids from what's alive in them, their true reasoning selves, and their feeling and needs

Adults' unmet needs from childhood, if not examined, understood, and dealt with, can lead to many costly strategies to get them met, particularly as parents
11 Situations in Which it Is Not Appropriate for You to Have Children by Daniel Mackler
http://www.iraresoul.com/nokids.html

Placing "limits" on kids often means not letting them develop the essential skill of determining their own limits--so that they can be responsible and self-governing

Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com

Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13

bumper music "Set Theory" by Divider (unable to find link)

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Direct download: Episode_144_-_Unconditional_parenting_part_seven.mp3
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In this episode I cover Chapter Five: Pushed To Succeed in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn
http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/

"Pop behaviorism" or operant conditioning implements punishments and rewards as a way to get people to do things--in violation of voluntary interaction and property rights

The essence of statism arises from authoritarianism in the family, denying children's needs for respect and choice (among other needs, such as emotional and intellectual honesty) and appealing to extrinsic motivators rather than intrinsic motivation and reason

A useful resource to learn about the so-called educational system, among other important things
http://schoolsucksproject.com

George Carlin - "Proud parents" bumper stickers
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxmE2qMbYRU

John Holt and the world of unschooling, which is respectful of learners
http://www.holtgws.com/

Being free to make your own choices (instead of capitulating to others' demands) promotes intrinsic motivation and thus self-actualization--which will foster a vibrant, prosperous society

Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.com
http://happinesscounseling.com

Open NVC Sessions...
http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13

2011 Porcupine Freedom Festival in Lancaster, NH
http://porcfest.com

bumper music "Ain't Wastin' Time No More" by the Allman Brothers
http://www.allmanbrothersband.com/

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Direct download: Episode_143_-_Unconditional_parenting_part_six.mp3
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